Carol&Paul | Relationship By Design

Random Thoughts

from our own experiences in "relationship" and workshops with you.

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July'21

Steadfastness and Freedom

The best and strongest promises are made in order to create a future that would not otherwise happen.

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Sept'16

Turning your partner into furniture

Your relationship is not furniture. But if you are going to continue to speak and behave as though it is furniture, then at least emphasize its attractiveness so that you can enjoy it.

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11

Sept'16

Time to retire?

...what you determine to be the causes of your behaviors often serves only to justify those behaviors and your view of them.

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26

Mar'20

Can You “Story Your Way to a Happy Relationship”?

It's a trap!

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23

Jan'19

How Does Money Become a Problem in Relationship?

Does money crop up as a problem in your relationship?

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17

June'20

What if a Snarky Remark is a Red Flag?

It happened to us, and opened a door to greater intimacy.

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29

Oct'16

Is it all really about me?

"...about a week later, I caught myself complaining to Paul that he is always telling me how to park the car in the garage."

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11

Apr'21

What We Noticed About Relationships While Working in the Garden

Is there any dead weight keeping your relationship from growing naturally?

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8

June'21

Hard Conversations

Did you ever wonder what might make a conversation seem “hard?”

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Feb'19

I Want This Relationship to Last!

Thoughts on enduring relationships.

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June 22

WHAT OUR PUPPY TAUGHT US ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS

Just now we heard an odd scratching sound and found our puppy, Molly, trying to bury a rawhide chew stick in the couch. She was quite systematic, tucking it deep between the cushions and using her nose to push dirt on top of it.

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Sept'19

Are We Doing Politics The Way We Do Relationships?

There’s a lot of dissatisfaction and unhappiness in American politics today. There’s a lot of dissatisfaction and unhappiness in relationships, too. Could there be a connection?

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May'20

Anxiety and Relationship in Uncertain Times

Uncertainty seems to be in our faces these days...

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27

Mar'21

On the Defensive?

We hear many conversations between spouses, partners, and family members. And what do we hear a lot? People defending something.

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22

Jan'20

Ordinary to Extraordinary… in a moment

How do people move from ordinary relationship to extraordinary relationship?

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May'21

Working On Your Relationship?

... we became aware that it took a lot of effort, a lot of work, to hold on.

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June'18

Is Your Relationship a Private Island?

A reflection from Carol and Paul.

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10

Nov'21

Connecting: Confused

Carol has been reflecting on the relationships that have shaped her life.

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Nov'17

A Relationship Isn’t a Title

Families can sometimes seem complicated. But the experience of family is really quite simple… and profound.

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7

Dec'21

Connecting: Grief and Love in Community

Carol and Paul are sending this reflection on the Exploring Extraordinary Relationship workshop that took place last month.

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Feb'17

Cracking the door to a “we” relationship

In Relationship By Design, we assert that mastering relationships has a lot to do with moving a relationship from being about “I” to being about “we,” without leaving “I” out.

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Oct'21

Relationship Moving from Story to Experience

This week, Carol writes about her recent 10-day demonstration of how action transforms relationships from remembered stories into vivid present experiences.

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