Carol&Paul

In 2005, Carol and Paul first joined Sandy and Lon in a workshop with two of their children and were inspired to become their partners in exploring relationships, determined to cut the bonds that constrain people from what’s possible in relationships.

Random Thoughts

from our own experiences in "relationship" and workshops with you.

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June'18

Is Your Relationship a Private Island?

A reflection from Carol and Paul.

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Carol&Paul

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Jan'19

How Does Money Become a Problem in Relationship?

Does money crop up as a problem in your relationship?

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Carol&Paul

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Sept'19

Are We Doing Politics The Way We Do Relationships?

There’s a lot of dissatisfaction and unhappiness in American politics today. There’s a lot of dissatisfaction and unhappiness in relationships, too. Could there be a connection?

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Carol&Paul

11

Sept'16

Time to retire?

...what you determine to be the causes of your behaviors often serves only to justify those behaviors and your view of them.

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Carol&Paul

11

Sept'16

Turning your partner into furniture

Your relationship is not furniture. But if you are going to continue to speak and behave as though it is furniture, then at least emphasize its attractiveness so that you can enjoy it.

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Carol&Paul

17

Feb'19

I Want This Relationship to Last!

Thoughts on enduring relationships.

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Carol&Paul

29

Oct'16

Is it all really about me?

"...about a week later, I caught myself complaining to Paul that he is always telling me how to park the car in the garage."

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Carol&Paul

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Sept'18

What Legacies Are Your Relationships Leaving in Their Wake?

Eventually, most people give some thought to the inheritance they’ll leave when they die: the money, property, possessions.

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Carol&Paul

17

Sept'17

Myth #1: Relationship is a feeling

What happens when you feel lonely in your relationship?

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Carol&Paul

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Nov'17

A Relationship Isn’t a Title

Families can sometimes seem complicated. But the experience of family is really quite simple… and profound.

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Carol&Paul

16

May'19

Where did the romance go?

“Romance is missing,” our friend said.

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Carol&Paul

17

Sept'17

Myth #2: Relationships are what you do

How many times have you heard someone say, “We’re working on our relationship”? Have you said something like that yourself?

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Carol&Paul

23

Feb'17

Cracking the door to a “we” relationship

In Relationship By Design, we assert that mastering relationships has a lot to do with moving a relationship from being about “I” to being about “we,” without leaving “I” out.

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Carol&Paul