Sandy&Lon

After spending 30 years working with individual adults, young people, and organizations, Sandy and Lon realized that they could apply transformational methodology to relationships as well as to individuals. They closely examined the nature of human relationships, including their own 40+ year marriage, and they discovered what no one else has talked or written about: you have a lot more to do with how your relationships go than you realize. Sandy and Lon created Relationship by Design, LLC to continue to explore and share their discoveries and transform relationships.

Random Thoughts

from our own experiences in "relationship" and workshops with you.

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Jan'17

Seeing when you’re stuck in ordinary

As you begin this new year we wish you lots of experiences of freedom, ease and fulfillment in your relationships in 2017.

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Sandy&Lon

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July'17

Extraordinary relationships

As we identify more design features of extraordinary relationships, we are left with new questions and possibilities for our relationships.

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Sandy&Lon

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June'19

Suffering in Relationships - part 1

Have you ever really suffered in a relationship?

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Sandy&Lon

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Aug'16

Purpose for relationship

“True happiness…is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.” ~ Helen Keller

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Sandy&Lon

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Jan'19

Getting Your Relationships in Shape

January 2019 Newsletter

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Sandy&Lon

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April'18

Is your relationship stuck in reverse?

Are you trying to move your relationship forward while putting it in reverse?

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Sept'18

“You Are SO Exasperating!”

Do you ever find yourself really exasperated in a relationship—at home or at work? What do you think produces that exasperation?

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May'19

Frustrated with recurring problems in your relationship?

Well, maybe you’re just not very good at handling problems. Or…

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Oct'17

Breaking Through vs. Backing Out

Something beyond the ordinary is possible, and can happen, when you persist through a “down time”.

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Sandy&Lon

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Feb'19

When is it Time to Leave a Relationship?

You will probably find as many different answers to the question as the number of people you ask, even though some may be similar.

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Sandy&Lon

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Oct'17

Relationships and Money

Why is money almost always an issue in relationships, even when there’s no shortage of money?

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Sandy&Lon

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Jan'17

Where are we now?

As of this month, we are beginning our 14th year of creating, designing, producing and leading workshops and events that transform relationships and families.

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May'18

Why Relationships Don’t Last?!

Our definitions for marriage and relationship are often shaped by our past (what we saw and were exposed to growing up) or what we have seen in movies, books, and the latest celebrity news …. No wonder we’re confused!!

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Sandy&Lon

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Feb'17

That’s my story and I’m sticking to it

Have you ever heard someone say “He always…” or “She never…”?

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Sandy&Lon

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June'17

A relationship is a game

A game is designed around a purpose – a reason for playing the game.

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Sandy&Lon

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Aug'17

Then what (in your relationship)?

It’s a fantasy to think that there is some magic formula that will turn your ordinary relationship into an extraordinary relationship all the time and forever.

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Sandy&Lon

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Aug'17

Relationships: A rough road?

You may be having a rough ride down a road. But it doesn’t matter how many potholes you fix if you are riding on square wheels.

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Sandy&Lon

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Apr'19

The Quality of Your Relationship

What is determining the quality of your relationships?

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Sandy&Lon

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July'17

Vive la difference

Lon’s draw to Sandy? She was so different from him, offering new and different views of life and living.

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Sandy&Lon

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June'17

Projects and Promises

Guest post by Carol & Jeff England

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Feb'18

The Mathematics of Relationship

To have a fulfilling relationship (the 1), you must be willing to uncover the concerns, the expectations and the focus of the 1 X 1 together.

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Sandy&Lon

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Oct'16

Relationships get in the way

Do you have too much to do to be able to make time for your relationships?

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Sandy&Lon

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Nov'17

Your Experience of Relationship

Your experience of relationship is all a matter of where you are standing and looking from.

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Sandy&Lon

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Feb'18

Transforming Relationships

Perhaps, when you see that you’ll never escape from the 1 + 1 = 2 mathematics of relationship, you might enjoy inventing and exploring another mathematics of relationship in which 1 + 1 = 1.

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Sandy&Lon