Breaking Through vs. Backing Out

Something beyond the ordinary is possible, and can happen, when you persist through a “down time”.

October 1, 2017

Whether you were pleased with the outcome of the 2017 edition of the NFL Super Bowl or not, you have to acknowledge that the New England Patriots didn’t quit when the game wasn’t going well for them. They were down and almost out, and yet they recovered and went on to win the Super Bowl. And that win was probably the sweeter because they had been so close to failing so completely.

It occurs to us that there is a similar sweetness, a joy, a “WOW” and a lasting satisfaction available in relationships when, rather than backing out when the going gets tough, you break through to a whole new level of understanding and appreciation of each other.

It seems that leaving a relationship is so easily facilitated in today’s world that most of us fail to notice that in leaving, we are often destined to replay a similar “first half” of the game over again, just with another partner. And we don’t get to experience the second half.

When you look at people who have stayed the course through the green slime at the bottom of the valley of the shadow of death, you often see an experience of deep love and appreciation for each other.

Like Silverstein‘s comic guru said to the seeker who was looking for nirvana, “It’s one step beyond the “SPLAT.”

This is not to say you should stick it out no matter what or that if you stay the course it will all turn out to fulfill your fantasy. However, it may be that if you don’t turn and run right away, either physically or emotionally, that if you persist in working through the inevitable disappointments, frustrations and hurts, and all of the meanings and significances that automatically accompany them, you may discover a connection that is greater than all of the assaults on your relationship.

We, and many others, are available to support you in breaking through.

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