Fears in Relationships

Were you ever told “Don’t be afraid” or “Be brave” or “Be strong” when you were young and afraid?

July 14, 2020

You may have concluded that you shouldn’t be afraid, that being afraid was a sign of weakness, and that expressing fear was admitting weakness.

In your attempt to be seen as strong, you may have developed strategies to hide your fears or to avoid situations where your fears may be detected.

But can you see that devising and maintaining strategies for avoiding what you fear actually holds the fear in place?

And you may have extended hiding your fears to include hiding something that you did or didn’t do that you are afraid will damage your relationship with someone. 

The real damage is that in hiding your fears, you are hiding a part of yourself from that someone and forfeiting the experience of being related. Instead, you experience being separate and alone.

When you communicate your fears, you recover and expand your experience of being related because you are revealing more of yourself to that someone. Communicating fears is actually a sign of strength, a sign that you are bigger than your fears. 

Watch the fears in your relationship dissipate as you communicate them - and transform them into love. If you need support, contact us.  

Love,

Lon&Sandy

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