Fighting in Relationships

You cannot get rid of your point of view even if you tried.

August 25, 2020

It is somewhat disheartening to see people in relationships and families fighting with each other – sometimes for hours at a time. 

And what we find most disheartening is that most of the fights are rooted in holding on to something which you cannot lose anyway – your point of view. It could be said that you are a point of view about everything.

You cannot get rid of your point of view even if you tried. It would be like trying to stop breathing. You cannot do that without ending your life. But for some of you, letting go of your grip on your point of view seems like a fate worse than death. So you hold on – and fight – “for dear life”. 

Some of you are so attached to your point of view that it effectively owns you. Your attachment to your point of view runs you, and pulls you to fight for it even when it upsets – and sometimes destroys – your relationships and families. 

Is your attachment to your point of view worth holding onto at the expense of affinity, peace, and ease in your relationships with others, especially your family?    

You cannot lose your point of view. So let go of your attachment to it. You don’t need to hold on to it for it to be safe. It’s safe even if you are not fighting for it. And it’s a lot more enjoyable to simply share your point of view than to fight for it.

It was when we began to let go of our attachment to our positions – our points of view – that we began to experience the full measure of our love for each other.

We wish you the joy of “letting go” of your attachment to your point of view.

Love,

Sandy&Lon

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