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May'19

Frustrated with recurring problems in your relationship?

Well, maybe you’re just not very good at handling problems. Or…

Why is it that so often, when you think you have handled an issue or problem in your relationship, it pops up again? Why do the same problems keep coming up in your relationship?

Well, maybe you’re just not very good at handling problems. Or…

Maybe the problem that you thought you handled wasn’t really the problem.

Mostly, when problems occur in your relationship, don’t you immediately blame your partner or yourself? So you go to work at fixing or changing your partner or yourself.

And when problems recur, don’t you begin to search out what else is wrong with your partner or yourself in order to make sure you get it fixed this time? But then it seems that you still can’t get it right because the problem shows up again.

What you, like most people, haven’t noticed is that nearly everyone who works on relationship problems isn’t working on the problems at all. They’re working on the people in the relationship, thinking that the people are the problem.

As difficult as it may be to think or to grasp, neither you nor your partner are the problem. Your partner’s and your individual traits and quirks are really not what produce recurring problems in your relationship. You must come to see that it is fears and unfulfillable expectations – that are common for all human beings (i.e. they’re not personal to your partner and you) – that are producing the problems in your relationship. And until you see that, you are destined to recurring problems in your relationships.

In our Relationship: The Real Deal workshops, as you become fully aware of the exorbitant expectations and fears that have been shaping your relationships, you will gain access to the experience of peace, ease, and fulfillment that is natural to being in relationship.

We’re dedicated to you having that experience.

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