How Does Relationship By Design Compare With Other Transformational Work?

What distinguishes Relationship By Design?

First off, the transformational work with which we are familiar is usually designed around individual transformation, with the idea that a transformed individual will produce a transformed relationship. We have discovered that is not necessarily the case.

Ours is the only program that we know of that is designed for the transformation of a relationship itself. 

It began with a nine-year-old opening our eyes to the fact that a family doesn’t belong to its members; its members belong to the family. “My family” doesn’t mean that the family belongs to me; that I own it. Similarly, a relationship is something to which individuals belong, not something which they have. And yet, when we searched, we found no one who knew what a relationship is or how it’s designed. Relationship experts have been too busy identifying reasons for problems in relationships and devising solutions to those problems.     

So we embarked on a journey to discover what a relationship is; what is it that we belong to when we say we “have” a relationship or what it is that we’re in when we say we’re in a relationship. 

Having just led a Relationship:The Real Deal workshop in the Washington D.C. area, it is again clear to us that something radically different is available with Relationship By Design.   

Importantly, we didn’t simply “inform” the participants of what we have discovered about the nature and design of relationships. We led them in discovering for themselves the truths about relationships, because when you discover something for yourself, it’s really yours.  

We didn't help fix, improve or change the relationships of the people in the workshop, and yet their disappointments, upsets and frustrations disappeared as they began to see what a relationship actually is.

By the way, we don’t focus exclusively on romantic relationships. The scope of our work is much wider. You’ll see that what you discover in our workshops is true for ALL relationships, not only “intimate” relationships. That’s important, because your relationships determine your success and fulfillment in every area of your life.

So how does Relationship By Design compare with other transformational work? It doesn’t. It’s in a field by itself. 

Lon&Sandy


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