Relationship and Freedom

Are relationships confining, or can relationships actually provide access to the experience of freedom?

July 6, 2021

While many people, it seems, consider that relationships are confining, or become confining, relationships actually provide the access to the experience of freedom.

A relationship is a phenomenon of language - i.e. there is no such physical thing as a relationship; it exists and is presenced through communication. And communication is at the heart of the experience of being free.

When you are withholding something, not communicating it, and dealing with it by yourself, you become tied to it and confined by it. You become its captive.  

On the other hand, when you “give away” whatever you’ve been holding onto and withholding -- simply by communicating it -- you begin to experience the freedom of not being tied to it and confined by it. 

A relationship presents the opportunity for communication and for the freedom that you experience when you communicate something that you’ve been withholding from others. While communicating something that you’ve been withholding and holding onto is often not easy to do, it does produce an immense freedom.  

We invite you to give yourselves the gift of relationship. Communicate what you’ve been withholding from others and enjoy the experience of being free - and related. 

With our love and best wishes,
Carol&Paul and Sandy&Lon
RelationshipByDesign.com

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