Seeing when you’re stuck in ordinary

As you begin this new year we wish you lots of experiences of freedom, ease and fulfillment in your relationships in 2017.

January 24, 2017

Our wish for you includes being aware of what’s actually going on when you are not experiencing peace and joy in your relationships – when you are “in the morass.”

  • Are you blaming yourself or other(s) for your being “in the morass” rather than simply acknowledging that you’re in the morass in this moment?
  • Are you exaggerating, i.e. making normal disappointments and upsets bigger than life by using words such as always, never, constantly, only, just, still, forever, wouldn’t, won’t, doesn’t, can’t, etc…?
  • Are you using the present tense when talking about the past, and using the future tense when talking about the present, and thereby carrying “what has been” into “what will be?”
  • Are you exhibiting “victim” symptoms, e.g. suppressing, pitying, being alone and lonely, hiding, tolerating, succumbing, submitting, complaining, withholding, withdrawing, etc…?
  • Are you taking who you are with, and what you have, for granted?
  • Are you wallowing in the past rather than creating and realizing a new future by making and fulfilling requests and promises?

We wish you lots of experiences of emerging out of everyday, ordinary relationship and into extraordinary relationship in 2017. And we invite you to join us in our workshops this year to expand your mastery in the art of relationships.

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