Stop Working and Go Exploring

It may be worthwhile to take a break from working on your relationship and to start exploring the nature and design of relationships!

May 19, 2020

If your partner were to say to you, “We need to work on our relationship,” what would be your first thought?  We bet it would be something like, “Uh oh! Something’s wrong.”  We also bet that you are not especially eager to work on your relationship, either because you’re not sure what to do or because you just didn’t sign up to “work on” the relationship.

We’ve discovered that most of the time there is actually nothing wrong with the relationships that people bring to us to help them fix. It only appears that something is wrong because people don’t know how relationships are designed and how they work. When you don’t know the design of something, it’s a bad idea to try to fix it.    

What if your relationship is working the way it’s designed and you just can’t see it because you don’t know the design? What if there is nothing wrong and nothing to fix? 

Perhaps learning how something is designed and how it works would be more beneficial than getting instructions on how to fix something that you don’t understand. Perhaps a design kit would be more useful than a repair kit. In our view, designing a new relationship together is more fun and adventurous than fixing an old one.

It may be worthwhile to take a break from working on your relationship and to start exploring the nature and design of relationships! Exploring together leads to experiences of discovery and wonder - and problems and fears diminish without working on them! 

Our workshops are designed to provide you with an experience of exploring together. Join us.

Sandy & Lon

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