That’s my story and I’m sticking to it

Have you ever heard someone say “He always…” or “She never…”?

February 23, 2017

Another phrase you may have heard is “That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.”

When you put the two together you get a brew that’s toxic to relationships.

“Always” and “never” are obvious exaggerations. When your relationship stories include those lies-by-exaggeration, and yet “they’re your stories and you’re sticking to them,” you get stuck with those lies. And these kind of lies persist. They persist by virtue of your continuing to say them.

“You will know the truth and the truth will set you free”, may simply translate to taking out the exaggerations sets you free from the past (and subsequent past-based presents and futures) that you’ve been holding in place by those lies-by-exaggeration.

As Bob Newhart said in one of his comedy routines, “Just stop it!” Free yourselves by catching yourselves exaggerating and just stop it. Go to YouTube and search “Stop It” to watch it.

One of the benefits of relationships is that you can be co-conspirators in catching yourselves exaggerating or lying with “always’’ and “never”. Then you can stop it!

Enjoy your conspiracy.

Love,

Sandy&Lon

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